Wednesday, April 30, 2008

Life with the serious one



Just wanted to give credit to my friend, the amazing photographer Daniel Milnor. Check out his website here and his blog here.

Monday, April 28, 2008

My 4 year old is actually 14

Me: I think it would look cute if you wore your hair up like this in a ponytail.
Miss CC: Not going to happen, MOM.
Me: Well, what if I fix your hair like this anyway? And I could do mine the same way and we could be twins?
CC: I don't like it.
Me: (laughing) Too bad. I'm the boss and I'm going to fix your hair like that.
CC: Too bad you'll forget anyway.
Me: (more laughing)
CC: I always win, right, Mom? (big smile)

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

Miss CC: her voice is mighty

Our new pool has finally been plastered and is in process of filling up with water.

The pool cover cannot be completed until the pool is full.

There is no sod or grass around pool because the contruction dust would kill it so we are waiting for the pool cover to be done.

Miss CC is not 100% pool safe yet when it comes to swimming.

In other words, dancing, tiptoeing or skipping around the edge of the pool is dangerous.

Both Mommy and Daddy have prevented her from walking around the (slick) edge of the pool. Today, when Dad asked her to get away, she absolutely lost it. Screaming, hitting, kicking. "I hate you!" "I hate my daddy!" "I have the meanest daddy in the world!" "He is far too bossy."

Later, when finally calm, she told us that she was born with "all the wisdom an adult has" and does not want us to ever tell her what to do or boss her around. We try very hard not to use "just because" or "because I'm the parent" logic with her and instead really use her usual logical thinking. So we explained that because we are older than her, we therefore have more experience and more wisdom. And so there would be times we have to tell her what to do because she was still a little girl and still learning.

She pondered that awhile and said, "Nope. God gave me all of my wisdom now and I really don't need your advice, but thanks."

!!!

Sunday, April 20, 2008

Are we well yet?

Miss R has finally been given the all-clear. Her blood counts are all back in the normal range. On the low side of normal, but normal nonetheless. Her mom and dad are happy and not worrying and although annoyed they still don't know what really happened, are just grateful it all worked out.

Now Wishful Mommy on the other hand (Mimi to Miss R).....I'm a different story. Why am I still worrying? Is it a grandma thing? I just don't like not knowing what was wrong. Why don't we have answers?

And as for me, I have had good days and bad days. The days I eat in this new several-small meals-a-day way, I do feel better. The days I give in and have a piece of Scottish pie (similar to banana cream pie) or eat a big dinner, I feel terrible.

And as for Miss CC....well, no colds lately. Knock on wood. But tons and tons of anxiety and worry about, well, everything. I think worrying about kindergarten is the underlying theme.

Every school day she wakes up and says, "Mommy, I hate preschool. I'm too smart for preschool. I'm ready for kindergarten." And then later when we are talking about the future, "Mommy, I hate kindergarten. I don't want to go there."

And even though my daughter and I are very different, it just occurred to me that we are quite alike in one way: natural-born worriers!

Sunday, April 13, 2008

My first blog tag!

I was tagged weeks and weeks ago by the wonderful Wonderwheel. And I just had so much going on, I didn't follow through. But now would like to share with you.

The rules:
A. The rules are posted at the beginning
B. Answer the questions about yourself
C. Tag 5 people, let them know in a comment on their blogs that they have been tagged.

What were you doing 10 yrs ago?
Hmm. In the spring of 1998 I had been living in San Francisco for about 6 months. I had just moved there for a job in corporate America and had just met my now-hubby Mr. C. It was a wonderful time in my life in many ways as I was a Southern gal discovering the big city and the West Coast for the first time. I had been promoted and was doing a lot of writing which always makes me feel good. I also was being wined and dined. And what a city to be doing that in!

Snacks I enjoy:
1. Dove dark chocolate
2. Dairy Queen M&Ms blizzard (wait, is that a snack?)
3. tortilla chips and guacamole
4. cheese and rosemary grackers
5. cold pizza

Five things on my to-do list today:
1. cook dinner for friend undergoing chemo
2. clean off furniture I am donating
3. find missing mailbox key and get mail out
4. pick up Miss CC from preschool
5. go see Girl's Gone Child at a local reading

Things I would do if I became a billionaire:
1. make sure my mom and mom-in-law were in comfortable beautiful homes where they felt independent but had some visiting care
2. pay off debt of all in my family and a few close friends, too
3. start a school like this in California that provides positive environments for quirky kids (John Elder Robinson wrote about it so eloquently here at his blog)
4. start a foundation that gives money to different charities each year
5. buy a second home in Carmel, California and a third one in Oxford, Mississippi (extravagant I know but hey, I'd be a billionaire!)

3 bad habits:
1. just did not grow up flossing so it is hard to start a new habit now
2. Late-night stress eating
3. Reading email on blackberry when sitting in traffic or at a red light

5 places I have lived:
1. Mississippi
2. Florida
3. North Carolina
4. San Francisco, California
5. Orange County, California

Jobs I have had:
1. retail clerk (in high school)
2. singing telegrams/clown (in college)
3. nanny (for not-potty-trained 3-year-old triplet boys!)
4. newspaper reporter and then editor
5. speech writter and video script writer
6. PR
7. stay-at-home mommy (yay!)

Things people don’t know about me:
1. I can't sleep! Terrible insomnia from as long as I can remember. (I actually remember pretending to sleep in my crib at age 2 to please my mother.)
2. I have a brother who is 20 years older than me! And, yes, same two parents. We've never lived in same house so we are not very close. We are opposites.
3. I have wanted to be a mom since I can remember. I was always bringing home unwanted pets and then later unwanted people. I am very maternal by nature.
4. I have one tattoo and I actually ADORE it. I will never get tired of it.

I read lots of blogs and know many of you do not "do" tags. However, I will tag you anyway because I enjoy reading what you write. Feel free to avoid if you wish. This was fun for me.
I now tag:
A Path to the Sea
Mamma Thinks
Weinstein: The Next Generation
Asperger Square 8
Smogranch

And now it is my turn for health issues...

So I turned 39 not long ago and my body seems to be falling apart.

Blood tests show I have a variety of health issues - all minor in the grand scheme of things but coupled together, they are causing some major problems. Hypoglycemic, too low blood pressure and dehydrated. All 3 are resulting in a too fast heart rate, something my dad dealt with his whole life.

They say I can correct this all simply by changing my diet to several small meals a day with more protein and less sugar, instead of 2 or 3 big meals. Sounds easy, huh?

Well, today Mr. C comes home from church with sugary sweets from the bakery. Then after lunch, Miss CC asks for ice cream. It's harder than you think to change your diet! My sweet tooth is officially doing me in it seems.

Any advice on incorporating more protein in my diet? My doc suggests cottage cheese with fruit for breakfast and snacking on almonds (instead of chips) during day and always adding chicken, etc to salads for lunch.

What do you do to eat healthy?

Tuesday, April 08, 2008

Remembering the good ole days...

An old roommate of mine is visiting this week for spring break. She brought her little boy M here who is Miss CC's age. They are very similar in that both are very shy.

My friend and I are decidedly not.

Sometimes we wonder how we got these kids. Did God/Goddess/higher energy think we needed some difficult challenge?

I'm so glad to see my friend again. We lived together the year before we met our now husbands. In other words, we were "date queens" at the time living the single life. We both had been married before so in many ways had given up on men. I had actually given up on having a child as I "knew" I'd never marry again. So when we lived together we had lots of pets (our children).

I even got my beloved Athena, my cat, during that time. I am a big party person and I had a huge baby shower when I got my kitten. Everyone brought cat toys and I had a big cake with a cake jumping out of a stroller on it. I even passed out "It's a girl" lollypops.

We were always entertaining and having fun. We also both had careers and were on the path up the corporate ladder.

Now we are both primarily at home with children. I am writing a bit and doing charity work on side and she is a part-time photographer. We turned in our lives for totally new ones at some point.

The only thing that is the same is Athena is still around and now 11!

It's good to reconnect now and then. To remember a different side of ourselves. I'm still that person, too.

Gotta go now. M and Miss CC want to hunt for ladybugs.

Friday, April 04, 2008

Back to normal

Normal for us I reckon.

Dust covers the whole house again as construction continues.
Miss CC has the sniffles.
I have asolutely NO energy. I'm talking I can hardly get out of bed.
Is it anemia? Virus coming? Homones? Thyroid? Just depression or stress?
Doctor has no idea of course but did send my blood away for tests.
Now a weekend wondering.....

Read an interesting article in an old Oprah mag about desire. About in every relationship you are doing the desiring or being the one desired. You rarely are on the same page.

Mr. C handled the very honest words of his daughter rather well. He's trying to improve his grumpy ole self. It is so hard for him. He does not have to say anything for all around to feel tension. He is so Type A it is not even funny. He can never really relax. We've finally decided to see a therapist together. YAY! As always, good comes out of bad.

Yay for shrinks! Boo Tom Cruise!

Tuesday, April 01, 2008

Intuitive kids and mutant viruses

Miss CC: "Mom, I need to tell you something."
Wishful Mommy: What, my darling?
CC: I have one sweet parent and one angry parent.
WM: Oh dear, what happened this morning when you were with Daddy for an hour?
CC: Nothing. You don't have to say you are angry for one to sense it.
WM: Do we need to talk to Daddy about his tone?
CC: It's okay, Mom. God just made him that way. I love him anyway.

Would you tell your huband if your child said this about him?
And would it make a difference if you knew exactly what she was talking about? I did marry Mr. Intense after all.

Miss R still has a low blood count, although it has risen to 11 (12 is the normal low). They will take her blood every few days now until she is out of danger. Her mommy had to go to work today and you can imagine how Miss R did not like that. She has had both her parents (plus tons of grandparents) pretty much 24/7 for a week now. Poor thing has to go back to reality.

There is talk of a mutant virus on the loose out there, one that causes your own antibodies to attack your own blood cells in an effort to fight the virus. There are lots of cases being reported this year.

Our germs are getting stronger.